Protecting Your Kids From Divorce Trauma

Whether a divorce is particularly messy or if it is as civil as possible, it will still be painful
for the entire family. Children particularly suffer during this time. Although you are dealing
with your own mental and emotional issues during your separation, it is important to protect your
children as much as possible.

 First of all, it is important to keep your children out of it as much as possible. It can be
easy to try to talk to your children about what is going on because you feel alone, but you need
to find a friend or a counsellor to discuss your divorce issues with. Even if your children are
older, they will still feel as if they are being put in the middle of the situation if you tell
them too many details.

 It is also important to let your children know that this separation is not their fault. You
might be surprised to find just how many children do feel this way. Also, make sure that your
children know that both of their parents still love them and that they are not being abandoned by
the spouse that is leaving.

 Arguing over the kids will only make the situation worse. Some partners try to use their
children as a way to punish their spouse, but this is the wrong thing to do. Arguing over custody
and child support can really hurt your children, and it will make them feel as if all of the
fighting is their fault. You have to be as civil as you can possibly be, and bring a mediator or
family attorney into the mix if you need guidance. Remember that taking your children away from
one parent can be very hurtful to them and can have negative effects on them later in life, so
encourage them to spend time with both parents to keep them as happy and healthy as possible.

 Lastly, try to keep their life as normal as possible. Divorces often result in moves, the
changing of school districts and other changes, and a child might feel a loss of safety, security
and normality. Do as much as you can to keep your child's life as stable as possible during this
time.

 Although divorces are very painful and traumatic for the entire family, you can make things go
much more smoothly if you make the effort. Not only will your children be able to transition to
their new life much more easily if you take these steps, but you will also find healing to be
easier for yourself.


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Posted by J. Randall Frier